Acts of Kindness, Compassion, and Love Nourish Us

 

Actions of kindness, compassion and love allow each of us to thrive in the world; to have meaningful relationships; to feel encouraged and supported; to help raise our confidence and esteem; and to feel a sense of connection – of belonging – and an ever present happiness.  There must be actions of kindness, love and compassion if we are to sustain and thrive as a family, as a community, as a planet.

When you give encouragement, kindness and unconditional love, what happens?  

What is your experience when you feel supported and loved without conditions?

 

Actions of kindness, compassion and love offer hope, reassurance, inspiration, and the nurturing of esteem and confidence.  These offerings inspire positivity; the ability to trust in our self and they allow us to feel supported and safe.  This is how we deepen our sense of autonomy and our belief in our ability to thrive in the world.

As parents what beliefs and perceptions do you instill and influence in your children based on what you believe; or what you’ve always done? 

Do you teach our children to treat others as they would want to be treated?  

Or, do we teach ‘learned behaviors’ – values, habits, ideals, and ways of being that cause our children to question their instinct for knowing ‘right’ from ‘wrong‘?

At times, do parents in their efforts to procure power and respect, instill fear through threats and punishment?

When children are taught through fear and militant persuasion – in those moments – there is no love.

There can be no unconditional love if a child has learned to behave in a certain way out of fear of punishment.

Do we place less importance on teaching our children self-responsibility and impeccable work ethic in place of offering privilege and luxury that is given easily because we have the means to do so?

Do we teach our children valuable life lessons that will serve them well in the world by encouraging experiences that promote self-discipline and perseverance; so that our children may achieve and be successful of their own doing?

 

Do we recognize the importance of learned experience;  of allowing our children an opportunity to learn and accomplish through effort and skill mastery, preparing them to be autonomous and confident in the world?

Acts of kindness, love and compassion given freely; together with the teachings of self-discipline, conscientious effort, and determination (e.g. drive, perseverance) prepare our children for success, autonomy and confidence.

Unconditional love and support instills values of self-worth and the knowledge that one can accomplish anything that they believe in and take action towards.

Encourage and empower your children with acts of kindness, love and compassion; with seeking to be the best version of yourself so that what you are teaching is of the most benefit (and not simply what you were taught to believe). 

Empower your children through each developmental stage to make their own choices whilst knowing that they can always seek your help.

You offer a better life for your child(ren) than what you may have had; in part because of your informed teachings, together with the life values of: appreciation, of never giving up, of following one’s heart – and of choosing a path that is right and best (authentic) to who you are. 

To offer encouragement and unconditional love is how you provide a safety net of comfort and support – so that your children may not fear making a mistake, or being unsuccessful at something new; and so that they have confidence in the distinct knowing that to achieve and have mastery of what they desire most is possible.

It matters not the age of your child.  It is never ‘too late’ to offer love, compassion and kindness; to encourage and accept; to be present and attentive; to allow your child to speak and be heard; to offer positive words and action.  Much can be done to help your child feel supported and loved by your efforts to do so.

Acts of love, kindness and compassion build strong relationships in families.  They instill the values of closeness, of supporting one another; of connection – and of unconditional love.  The support and love that you are given in your family of origin allows you to explore and experience the world feeling safe and secure.  From this you learn self-care, autonomy, courage, as you grow self-confidence, self-worth, and the knowledge of what allows you to thrive unto yourself; and in harmony with others.

As parents and caregivers your role is to look inward – and often.  Be sure that the values and beliefs that you hold – that you are teaching – are those that you want for your children. 

Is what you teach allowing your child to progress and uphold the most helpful ideals for living life, or do you need to promote and encourage something more – perhaps different than what you were taught. 

This is how your children aspire you to become more. 

If you need my help to make changes to how you are; to how you parent, please reach out to me for help.  Namaste!  ?

 

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