Reclaim Your Power: Client Story #001 | ‘ask dorothy’

Reclaim Your Power: A Real Life Client Story

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There are going to be things that happen to us in childhood that are irrevocably damaging; and not because we are in any way deserving of this and so it becomes the question, “How will I examine this in such a way that I can rise up? …that I can somehow overcome and prevail and allow this to strengthen me further, incite me with knowledge – and allow me to be empowered not only because of it, but because I choose so.”

My client is 33 and a mother of two young children. In therapy, she wanted to discuss an incident that happened to her in high school.

She liked a boy and without really knowing much about this boy, she accepted an invitation to meet with him at his friend’s house. Her mother drove her. My client thinking that it would be safe, that his friend’s parents would be around; was surprised to find the boy alone – his friend and his friend’s parents were away.

The situation was unsafe; the boy had other ideas and attempted to coerce by force my client to have sex. Somehow she found her way out safely and without physical harm, able to shut down what might have happened.

But the emotional scars were there. She believed that she could not confide in her mother about what happened because she would have been scolded; her mother would have made her the victim for tarnishing the mother’s reputation and what image of a perfect family the mother wished to uphold.

Many years have gone by with my client holding unto that frightening scenario as well as the insidious teasing that she endured when the boy began to spread lies at school that they had had sex.

Our work together in therapy was not only to help her heal; to find her present moment voice and to do the work of speaking this voice to the boy even now without needing his presence; and to have the power now to say what she could not fully say then because fear and shock had immobilized her.

And then we needed to debrief on how her mother was absent; physically by also emotionally and attentively to her needs. We needed to discuss the perception she presented by driving my client willingly to a strange boy’s friend’s house in the evening and without question or concern for what this could present itself to be; for not impressing upon her daughter that this was not a safe and wise decision, even if the parents were home.

There are many professions that are incredibly important; perhaps too many to mention.

Two of the most overlooked and yet critically important are that of being a parent and being a teacher; and so many of us have both of these roles because as a parent you are a teacher.

Every client story has multiple layers to unpack; and to explore.  Seeing the entire story unfold from a higher perspective, that opens a path for truth, healing, forgiveness, and empowerment. There can only be wonder; wonder for what could have been, wonder if one had done something wrong to deserve what happened, wonder for how to heal and fix the trauma that we sometimes will carry for the rest of our life if we do not have the right guidance and help to heal of our past.

This client’s story reminds us of how difficult and even traumatic life events, can propel us forward; and that all situations and experiences may teach us much about our personal strength and resilience; so that we can heal and overcome what has happened.

We can witness peace.  We can rise above, to contemplate and understand; and to feel empowered – now.

This client story was not about blame, but rather how to empower her voice now in the present; to teach her children the lessons that she never received; and to rise up – to stand liberated, confident, and grateful in the knowledge that she was protected and physically safe in a situation that could have been very different.

This is how I help. This is how I may help you heal from a past situation and whatever you may be continuing to hold, yet unresolved and unhealed.

You can reclaim your power.  You must.  Let me help.

I invite you to reach out to me if you would to discuss how you may heal and be empowered in the present, and as you continue forward in your life.

Namaste ?

Further Resources to Support Your Journey Into Healing and Self-Love:

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