Healing The Mother Wound

Healing The Mother Wound

There are moments that I have wondered ~ ‘Did a stork drop me from above into this family whom I AM so very different from?

And then I remember, it is I who have chosen to question, to speak my truth, to not follow ~ to be who I AM.

The Mother Wound is another term for the hurts and suffering that we have lived at the hands of of our most formative and important caregiver.  The Mother Wound is a wound that transcends generations of women especially those who have not yet healed their own sadness and hurts in their relationship with their Mother.

The mother wound is the cultural trauma that is carried by a mother – along with any dysfunctional coping mechanisms that have been used to process that pain – and inherited by her children (with daughters generally bearing the brunt of this burden). 

Read more about this cultural trauma here: The Mother Wound: What Is It and How To Heal  and The Mother Wound and Parenting the Mother Wound.

You felt hurt and sadness in all of the moments that your mother was mired in her own trauma story ~ unable to break free even when you offered her help and guidance to do so.

The mother wound is not your wound to continue in.

It is not yours to solve for her ~ to help her see the light ~ to demand that she change.  Rather, it is yours to heal ~ to learn from ~ and then to step into the light of who you are.

The mother wound is the hurts that you have experienced in relationship with your Mother in part because of her inability to reclaim herself from her wounds.

The cycle when you choose so ~ when you choose to step away from the drama that she continues to live in at times unknowingly ~ is a deeply, well rehearsed pattern and in other moments to appreciate when she is of the present ~ when she is of her own presence and able in those moments to be real and forthcoming and kind.

The mother Wound rests with her.  It is not yours to fix nor can you.  You can walk the path of enlightened hope and promise ~ of serenity and integrity and to no longer engage with the drama of her victimhood.

Teaching by example, being kind with boundaries ~ boundaries in self-preservation, in self-autonomy, in self-love ~ are the further aspects of your healing and the new behaviours that will continue to serve you ~ to set you free in autonomy and peace.

The love that you hold in your heart is the passage.  It is the passage of your freedom.  It is the love of purpose and integrity.  It is the catalyst for you to experience the joy.

Joy in the sanctity of what it means to hold  yourself accountable to how you will approach and live your life.

Your Healing Mantra:

“I live in the wonder of sanctity and love.  I live in the freedom to express myself fully and with pure reverence for what I know to be true.

I choose to no longer carry this mother wound ~ for it is not mine.  It never has been.

I can feel sadness for what I was not given ~ for what I needed and I am replete with gratitude for the courage and resilience I found that has always been with me ~ for I know that my true nature is wholeness and to know that I am perfect as I am.”

In many ways I have taken my wounds and lifted them up to god ~ to the universe ~ to be healed.  they are no longer a part of me.  They are no longer mine to carry.

I step into the brilliance of the rest of my life ~ confident in the ever present knowing that I am releasing my hurts.  I have stepped away. 

I AM caring for my needs and giving to myself all that allows me to be nourished ~ all that I need to remind me of my wholeness ~ all that is for my gentle nature to feel the love I have for myself because when I stop relying on my mother for what I need, I give this to myself.

I AM reminded that I am already complete and whole and for whatever I did or did not receive I am able to offer and enjoy this as I provide it ~ as I live it ~ as I embrace my ability ~ my power ~ my freedom ~ to love and care for myself first and foremost.

I can allow my Mother to be who she is.  I can be loving kindness towards her.  I can set her free to live her journey as she chooses because it is not my journey to choose for her.

I can support her best at times from a distance.  I can love her completely including the chid self that needed so much.  I can allow her to find her way and trust that she will ~ in the way that she chooses.  I can focus with presence and dignity and love on myself ~ on my future ~ on my freedom to be all that I AM and all that I AM still choosing to become.

I AM no longer carrying the mother wound for I AM whole.

I am perfect.  I AM loved by me.

I AM all that I need.

I am.

I AM.

namaste

More Healing, More Love…